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A majority of single Christians are rejecting biblical doctrine by choosing to have sex before they are married.
Sixty-one percent of self-identified Christian singles who answered a recent Christian Mingle survey said they are willing to have casual sex without being in love, while only 11 percent said they are waiting to have sex until they are married.
In an interview with The Christian Post, two Christian Millennials share their diverse stories on faith, sex and marriage, and explain why many singles are battling against the "purity culture" of their youth.
When Heather Lindsey moved to New York City in 2004 at the age of 22, the Michigan native both attended church regularly and considered herself a Christian.
Instead, she entered and exited relationships frequently, often sleeping with the men she was dating."Even though I knew it was wrong, I continued to have sex outside of marriage," Lindsey told The Christian Post. Because when you're single you don't want to be lonely.""I was the girl that broke up with one boyfriend and had another one on speed-dial—that afternoon I'd already be going out with somebody else.
I kept a boyfriend because I liked the attention," she continued.
Then again, I’m not a reality star so I really don’t know how this life works.. After all the years of getting bashed by her costars for her singleness, I figured that Kenya would be singing from the rooftops that she found a good man- let alone the fact she married this one. There’s definitely a reason that she’s kept this one private.
Most likely she’s just going to slowly share the details to build up the intrigue and ultimately get more attention.
While "sex may be the determining factor" for some Christians "we're even seeing that line blurred," said Anderson."And in every other respect, we're generally seeing the same kind of attitudes and practices," said Anderson, listing "dating ad nauseum, dating indefinitely, dating someone without any specific game plan, and dating recreationally without a view toward marriage," as examples of ways that the Church has adopted the patterns of the larger secular culture."For the Christian culture it's extremely frustrating, because they are trying to go after something lasting, but they're using the same formula to get something that's just not going to get them there," said Anderson.For Lindsey, her behavior was not simply a result of her conforming to the sexual values of her non-Christian peers.Instead, she had friends from church with similar sexual ethics and even dated and became sexually involved with a man who was serving at the same church that she was."We all went to the church. We said we loved the Lord but we ignored the scriptures that said that fornication is a sin," said Lindsey.In a survey of 716 Christians released in January, only 11 percent said they save sex exclusively for marriage.Instead, 60 percent said they would be willing to have sex without any strings attached, while 23 percent said they would have to be "in love." Five percent said they would wait to get engaged.